I'm forever a BUM 🙂.

Now I know a lot of us want to have it all. Right out of college, the perfect job, good income, a car, great friends, purpose, and the right person to be with. That’s our ultimate goal. We strive really hard to get to a level of comfort and sustainability and that’s what our youth is all about. We see people on Instagram and twitter, accomplishing way more at the same age as ourselves. And we can’t help but to compare and push ourselves to do way more than we can. But sometimes, things don't always go as desired. You might graduate college and not find a job for months, you might lose your friends, you might get that devastating break up or not even get a chance to meet somebody, or you might lose sight of who you want to be. And instantly we start to panic.

"Nothing is going right!"

What we don’t know is that in our minds, there is the internal time frame that we give ourselves unconsciously; “By the time I graduate college, By the time I'm 22, After 2 years working I should, I need to be engaged in this by.” We create these deadlines that subconsciously creates anxiety when we don’t meet them. We start to panic.

“I am 21 and I still don’t know what I want to do with my life. “

“I graduated college and I can’t get a full -time offer, what do I do?”

“If I just ended things now with my partner, when will I settle down again?”

But who says these milestone have to be accomplished now?

"Youth is all about discovery."

There is no time frame for success. Failure needs to happen now. While you’re still young and the risk aren’t that impactful. Now is the time to date around. Now is the time to explore different career options. Now is the time to be spontaneous and do things randomly. It is the time to be fearless. The time to take that public transportation. The time to wear those cheap stylish clothes.

Don’t rush anything. There is no time frame for any amount of accomplishment. You might find your dream job at 30. You might get married at 32. Or you might get a car tomorrow. No one knows.

Part of the issue is comparison. Never compare your journey to anyone else’s. Your journey is specific to you. What take another person 2 year to do, might take you forever, why? Because that is not what you’re meant to do. It is specific to that person, that’s why is easier for them. If you try to work at their pace, no matter how good you try to be, it’s not going to feel right because it’s not meant for you. Your own blessings will just fall in your lap. Why? Because it’s yours. There is no formula to success. You have to understand your own journey and win your own battles. One thing you can never copy is originality.

Find your own purpose and I promise, no one can ever steal that from you.

Same thing goes for Social media. Don’t measure your efforts and success by what you see online. Just because there are people in their early 20’s making major money moves shouldn’t force you to think that you haven’t done anything. Or you are far behind. Some of those images you see are not even real. Social media has presented a platform for perfection, but we should be smart enough to know not everything that glitters is gold. And even if, those youths are making real legit money, it doesn’t undermine what you are. You may not be bringing in 20k every month, but you’re thriving.

Today you’re working your ass off to make your life better, that is more commendable than any social media icon.

When you know where you’re going and know there is always a plan for you, you’ll realize there is no time frame. Your time is coming. It may not be when you want it to happen, but trust GWAP, when it happens, you’re going to be even more grateful. So, relax and enjoy your youth. Don’t try to grind too hard because you want to play catch up and you miss out on being young. YOU HAVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO WORK! Literally. The rest of your life to be married. Enjoy being young and set your own pace.