The "Talking" Stage.
- GWAP
- Mar 13, 2018
- 5 min read
Updated: Mar 7, 2020
So apparently the lovely youths of our generation has sought to define this moment of two people getting to know each other as the "Talking stage." Honestly what does this even mean?
Basically:
We are getting to know each other and flirting and maybe even locking lips but we aren't a thing yet. So don't claim me. When i have reviewed your portfolio then i will decide if i want to date you or not.
So what happens during this "Talking stage"?
Texting: You send good morning text, ask each other what they are doing like 35 times, talk about your favorite things and put fake lols. Your phone is buzzing every minute and it always puts a cheesy grin on your face. You send risky heart emojis and get baffled if using "bae" or "baby" is too much. They request selfies and you also send pictures because you want to show off your new hair cut or a new shirt for a compliment. This can also get risky, because past 12am has no censorship. Minors close your ears. The texting gets a little naughtier and now their saying they wish you were there sleeping with them, the i want to take a shower with you text, the what are you wearing text, the facetime me i want to see you now text, the sooooo... what do you want to talk about text. You know how it goes. Also during this time, there is a game of push and pull. The late texters and the short texters. Be careful and catch onto hints! lol isnt a response. So is K or yeah or cool or wow. Cut them off if they text back like that. Also people who consistently don't text back for 5 hours because they were "busy" or their phone died or the usual "I didn't see your text." CUT THEM OFFF.
Dates: So you'll go on a few dates. Whether it is out to the movies or to get ice cream or maybe a hang out in your room, the meet up is bound to happen. So don't freak out and play it cool. For the first couple of date it can get awkward. Thats because even though you've been texting or calling each other, you said whatever because you were behind a phone and they weren't there. Now its time for you to face them. Observe their behavior, take a good look, see what they have to say and wonder if the text messages were all googled. During this stage in talking, it is important that those first dates go well. The conversation should be breathless and the stares should be magical. Don't rush into anything. But if you feeling a little freaky, i cant stop you! If its a dorm hang out, that could get a little tricky as you're in a confined room. Maybe its a chance to see if they are after the goodies or whats underneath. Let them know your likes and dislikes and things you are comfortable with and not, and if they turn to be a psychopath, HEAD FOR THE HILLS! Laying a kiss or receiving one can be done at anytime so don't put a time stamp on when it should be expected, go with the flow and pucker away!
Research: This is probably the most important part of talking. You need to do your research. Find out who they are, their background, their personality, friends and most important of all, THEIR HISTORY! From the person's ex, you can tell a lot. But do some digging around, ask friends of friends and see if you get something. Go on social media and look at their content, look at who is close to them and who is a little too close. Read the comments, screen shot it, ask your friends to help you do some refined stalkery. IT IS NECESSARY. But, don't get caught! If you're friends with their friends, ask for insight on who the person really is. If you're friends with their ex, you probably should end that friendship. Speaking of exes, make sure their ex isn't perambulating around (lurking). Ask for their reputation, you don't want to be looking stupid in front of everyone. DO YOUR RESEARCH. If they are very active in the hoeing community, review their promises and your time, is it worth it? Are they really going to stop thotting for you? Then make your decision. Don't skip this part. Do your research! Evil comes in all shapes and sizes, and yes even in a 6ft basketball player with some chocolate abs or a s-line beauty with some nice eyes.
Status: So this is probably the trickiest part of talking. Your status is unknown, therefore you don't know what and what not you should be doing. Everyone has their little weird definitions. Some believe you can talk to other partners because you aren't official yet while other people believe you should remain loyal and only talk to one. But nonetheless, you're in the hole of where do i stand? You might want to post them on your social media but you have to consider if things are actually going to work out and do they feel comfortable with it. If they don't, its not all bad. They might just want to take things slow or don't like their business on social media. There is also the issue of not knowing if they should be introduced to your friends just yet and if you are seen with them you don't know what to call them. FYI: if you lovebirds have been getting intimate, don't yell out that you are just friends! It hurts! Don't try to force the conversation either, naturally it will come out. The same way you don't force a friend to be best friends, you will naturally just agree upon it together. Without the pressure of the significant other title, you can use generic words like bae, babe, love, sweetypoo, strawberry cakes, squishy toes, prince/cess charming, daddy, ooop, okay i'll stop. That was getting gross for a second. ANYWAYS, you should play around with those words until you're ready for commitment. And girls, it doesn't always have to be the guy, you can take a leap of fate and pop the status question!
SO, I don't know if you're ever going to make it pass the talking stage. If you did, Congratulations, tell me your experience! if you didn't, it's okay, a loss isn't a loss, its a lesson!
Until next time,
Girl with a pen.
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